“If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it’s yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be” –Source unknown. This is one of the hardest things to do. If you love someone, you want to have them really close to your heart. You never want to let them go again. It is really hard to let something go of something and see if it comes back. The sad part is that the quote might be right. There is no other way to know that someone loves you unless you try to see if he/she will come back after you let him/her go. Sadly, most times the thing or the person is not coming back to you. This is what Sammy realizes in John Updike’s book, A&P, and Mr. Kapasi in Jhampa Lahiri’s book, Interpreter of Maladies. The music artist Bosson sings about the same thing in his song, You Opened My Heart. All three of these have the same theme. It is that love comes into your life, then the love is responded to, and then love leaves again because it was not meant to be.
When love walks into someone’s life but the girl has no interest in him. It is the same in all the books. The girl walks in and they see how nice she looks but the girl is not interested in him. The girl just continues on with whatever she is doing. This is the way that Sammy describes it, “She must have felt in the corner of her eye me and over my shoulder Stokesie in the second slot watching, but she didn’t tip” (John Updike, paragraph 5). Sammy would probably have been shaking so hard and been nervous about doing something wrong if the girl looked at him but now it was the opposite way. She was not nervous because she did not take more notice of him beside the fact that he looked at her. Even Mr. Kapasi finds a girl but the girl makes it clear from the beginning that she is not interested at all. It is just like it was written in the book, “… without displaying any interest in him” (Jhampa Lahiri, page 44). She was not interested to look at him. There was nothing that would have exited her about him. He knew it from the beginning that there was nothing there between them even if he wanted there to be. Also in Bosson’s song is the same reaction from the girl. In his lyrics, he writes, “Yes, I have learnt from the things that you said” (Bosson, line 12). She was not interested of him. There was never going to be anything between them. The girl made it clear from the beginning in all these stories.
Then comes the change, the girls realized that there is a guy that they might be interested in and the girls make the contact. It is what everyone wants; to have a chance to meet the person that you like. It is clear in all the stories that it is the girl is making the first contact change into something else. Sammy got that chance when, “... so the girls come to me” (John Updike, paragraph 12). The girl chose to go to him over the other cashiers. It was the best part of his day. He had a chance to talk to the girl that he liked. Also Mr. Kapasi gets to know that the girl is interested in him when she did, “No. Stay a minute” (Jhampa Lahiri, page 61). She could not have been clearer about the fact that she wanted to talk to him. All he had to do was to wait because she had taken the first initiative to contact him. It was clear to everyone that she wanted to talk to him. Even Bosson know that this girl was interested in him when he sings, “That there’s a chance for a guy like me” (Bosson, line 2). He gets the same chance that Sammy and Mr. Kapasi get. He gets to talk and realizes that there might be a chance even for a guy like him. They got what they wanted, a chance to talk with the girl that they liked. During the time that they talked to the girl everything was good in the world.
After they have the chance to talk to the girl, the girl disappears and they see everything that they had hoped for disappearing with the girl. All the stories end in the same way. It is up going and everything is good until the girl disappears out of their life again. The girl was not interested to see if there was going to be anything in their life. She just wanted to get out and to go fast. It is what happens to Sammy, “…the girls, and who’d blame them, are in a hurry to get out…”(John Updike, paragraph 22), They ran for it. Even if there might have been some little connection between them, it was nothing that they were interested of. They ran from it without thinking about it for a second. Even a few seconds afterward when Sammy left the store because he quit right after the girls left, they were not even outside when he came out. Even Mr. Kapasi realized that it was not going to be anything more. On the text it is written, “…the slip of paper with Mr. Kapasi’s address on it fluttered away in the wind” (Jhampa Lahiri, page 69). He had been dreaming about the fact that they were going to write to each other and explain their days. They were going to become really good friends but when he sees the paper with his address disappear in the wind, he knows that there is not going to be any contact between them. It must be really hard to see that something that you were hoping for is not going to happen. Also Bosson sings the same thing in his song, “Now you’re gone…” (Bosson, line 37). He knows that he had the change but he missed it. She is not going to wait for him because she is already gone. She has no interest to see what might come.
It is hard to find the right person; just like Sammy, Mr. Kapasi and Bosson got to experience. To find the right person takes a lot of time and effort and even if you feel like you found someone that you like, the feeling might not be shared with the other person. All the stories showed the same thing. They each found the girl that they liked but she did not have any interest in any one of them. Then comes the part when she realizes that they are interested in her, and she starts to pay them some attention. Some girl might just do this because it is fun for them to get the attention but some might actually see if they like the guy and if there is something there. Sadly, if the girl does not have any more interest in them, the girl is going to disappear out of their life again. You just have to continue to meet more and more girls everyday and hope that one day, when you left her go, that she will come back to you. If she does come back to you, you know that it is your real love that you have found.
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